Future Husband

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Dear future husband,

I want to say that I am so happy and blessed that you chose me to be your wife. I’ve dealt with a lot of heartbreaks in my life time and with that being said, I am trusting that you will take very good care of my fragile heart. I can’t promise you that every day will be full with rose petals, gum drops, sweet smells and mushy things of that nature because I am not perfect, far from it to be perfectly honest. I am sure I may get on your nerves with my insecurities and even my occasionally nagging. What I can promise you is, that I will do my absolute best to be the best wife possible. I will support your dreams and be your biggest fan. I will walk with you through the good and the bad times. I will be a listening ear whenever its needed. I will love you unconditionally and hold you down like no other. I will pray for you and our family. I will allow you, as my king, to take the lead and be the best man for me. I will trust you no matter the circumstances. I will be loyal and true. So future husband, I pray you are prepared for a lifetime of love, joy and compassion. I pray we will have an unbreakable bond. I can not wait to spend the rest of my life with you. I look forward to the times we will share. Sincerely,

your future wife xoxo.

Miguel Akando: Hip Hop Artist

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If you are anything like me, you’re picky about the type of music you choose to indulge in. Please don’t get me wrong, I listen to a lot of genres of music but my absolute favorite genre has to be hip hop and I am not talking about that mumble music either. I love listen to music that has a story behind it. It make things more interesting. So I ran across this artist by the name of Miguel Akando and I must admit he is pretty dope! His music paints a picture when you listen to his lyrics. He is a 20 years old hip hop artist and he identifies himself as a Native American/Indigenous American. “I’ve always had a passion for the arts of music, art, fashion and entertainment. When I was a kid, my nephew and I would just freestyle off the top of our heads and remix songs on the radio. Now it’s decade later and I’m in the process of releasing my first official 6 song EP “Ways to the Tribe”. The EP is really a big story and many of the songs on the project has multiple meanings. I liked the idea of my first project being an introduction project so this project is centered around my Native/ Indigenous culture. It’s really a story about a boy becoming a man and going through challenges to ultimately become worthy of the title “Chief. ” Don’t just take my word for it, go check out

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this lyrical genius on his social media.

Facebook: Miguel Akando (Black Eyce)
Instagram: @chiefpapiii
Twitter: @BlackEyce_
Also, here is an exclusive preview of Miguel Akando’s work. Hope you enjoy! Signing off. XOXO
“Ways to the Tribe” Black Eyce -Chief https://soundcloud.com/blackeyce/chief “Ways to the Tribe” Black Eyce -Oxytocin Music https://m.soundcloud.com/blackeyce/black-eyce-oxytocin-music

Friends vs. Significant others

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Have you ever been in a situation where you spouse didn’t necessary like your friends or vice versa? What strain this can on a relationship, as well as a friendship. When I was in college, some of my close friends did not approve of the guy that I was with. It bothered me because I was deeply in love with this guy, but at the same time, I knew that they had my best interest and they just wanted me to be happy. They were aware of some of the struggles I had faced being in a relationship with him. However, whenever I brought him up in conversations, there were always side eyed looks, which made things pretty awkward. Has anyone ever dealt with a situation like this before? How did you over come it?

Secrets: Are they allowed?

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So your best friend has been dating this guy for about a year now. They seem like the perfect couple (on social media) but deep down inside, you know the truth. One day, you are out a restaurant after work, and you witness your bestie “boo” hugged up with some random chick. You can not believe your eyes! He noticed you as well, so leaves the restaurant in a hurry. What are you going to do? Keep this secret to yourself? or tell your home girl? I mean its only right, right? I have been in similar situations myself. When I was in high school, I had a close friend who boyfriend used to be abusive and controlling, as well as  cheater. One day, at track practice, I witnessed him all up on this girl. So I told her what I saw, it didn’t go so

well. She flipped the script on me, told me that I was “jealous” of their relationship. Honestly, it was the worse experience EVER. Our friendship did not last. It was a shame because, in my mind, I thought I was doing the right thing. I mean if the shoe was on the other foot, I would want someone to give me a heads up, instead of being played, but everyone is different. If I could go back in time, I wouldn’t change what I did. I believe as a friend, secrets aren’t allowed.

Jacey Jackson

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Ms. Jacey Jackson is an author from the city of Chicago. She recently dropped her first book, which is called “Not Until He’s Ready” and is currently working on “He’s still not ready,” and “Ready or not.” Her life experience inspired her to write. “I have always been a reader. My love for that never changed, the genre of the books did. So I think different writing styles influenced me. You begin to vision yourself into the story, and it sparks something in you. As you read over the years, you see what you love about and being to want to give what you love to the next generation of readers.” Jacey says she faced alot of challenges in her life. “When I wrote my first book, I was recovering from a major surgery. I had been diagnosed with early stages of ovarian cancer, and underwent a hysterectomy. So I now had the time to attempt my dream of being a writer So outside of the obvious of writing and recovery, I also was limited in getting certain resources.” Her story is indeed aspiring, although she was battling with cancer, she decided to not allow that challenge to stop her from chasing after her dreams. “No matter how screwed up you are, there is always somebody for everybody. People get depressed and caught up in them having to settle or be alone because of who they are, and thats not the case.” You can follow this author on her Facebook at Author Jacey Jackson, her Facebook group at Sipping Tea with Jacey and Instagram Lady Jacey Jackson.

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Meet Mrs. Twanita Dozier

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Are you a entrepreneur? Do you need help getting your business of the ground? Are you interested in platform that would allow exposure to your business?  If so, Twanita is the person for you. This beauty is originally from the south side of Chicago, but currently resides in Virginia working on her online magazine geared towards black entrepreneurs. The name of her magazine is “Boss Up Magazine” “For those who are just starting a business, it can be difficult to get your name and/ or business known, and it can be especially difficult to get support. My online magazine provides a platform to help black entrepreneurs, businesses and organizations get the support and recognition that they need.I am all about empowering and helping others, and my magazine allows me to do as such.” Twanita has been working on her magazine since early October, however, it has been taking off! If you would like to be featured in her magazine, don’t hesitate to reach out to her! (all features are free) you can contact her at http://www.bossupmag.org  www.theallurebrand.com. Also, you can follow her on instagram at @_alluredbyher @_beallured and @bossupmag. Enjoy!

 

Shanti Helena

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With all the craziness that is going on in our society, it is kinda hard to tell if someone is being truthful or honest in their relationship. Social media definitely doesn’t help at all with this situation. Shanti Helena is the author of  “Why Side Chicks Winning.” Shanti Helena was inspired by her own personal relationships. “Throughout my past I had a lot of heart breaks. Recently, I was dating a guy who lied to me the entire time . I was a “side chick” the entire relationship. So instead of crying and wondering why I have bad luck with me, I started writing a book about Side Chicks. In addition, I watch people around me go through so many bad relationships. My target  audience is men and women who have encountered cheating within relationships, women who do not know how to please their men, and men who do not know how to treat a woman . Most of viewers are between the ages of 28 to 45 years old. My ultimate goal is to enlighten men and women in relationships of the do’s and don’t. Nobody is perfect in life but working on your relationship is very important. I hope my videos and books can help grow relationships in a better way.” Currently, Shanti Helena’s book is still in production but once it is release, it will be available on Amazon.com. In the mean time go follow this beauty on Instagram @Shanti.Helena. You won’t be disappointed !!!

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Cheating: Is it ever possible to bounce back from it?

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In today’s society, it seems as if cheating is glorified, from movies, tv shows, music and social media. In my own opinion, this is generation where, relationships, and even friendships are taken lightly. No one has any loyalty to one another, feelings get hurt, and relationships are destroyed. In my own walk of life, I have experienced the hurt of being cheated on, even though I was loyal on my end. I tried my very best to overcome what was done to me, however, it was difficult for me my own to shut off my mind with the thoughts and images because whenever he wasn’t around me, I thought the worse of him. As a result, I ended the relationship. I couldn’t personally deal with the thoughts that ran through my mind on the daily because my trust was gone, and if there isn’t any trust, the relationship was dead. I can truly say that I tried my best to forgive and forget, the forget portion was the part that hunted me to this day. It easy to forgive, well atleast for me it is, but forgetting what someone has done is difficult because you never want to feel that pain again, so you create a wall that protects your feelings so you wont feel that hurt ever again. I believe it is possible to bounce back from cheating, if and only if, the two parties are willing and are

fully invested in doing so. What do I mean by fully invested, well this can look a couple of ways. One, cutting off the individual in which the affair occurred with. Two, counselling is a great option to help with the healing process. Three, forgiving your spouse and talking things out to see their point of view. Four, start off with a brand new clean slate, leaving the past in the past and lastly, if there is ever an issue with your spouse, go to them and express yourself. Communication is key to ANY relationship. Of course, there are many, many more options, these are just a few. Remember, relationships can be difficult, but you get whatever you put into it. If you put only 50% in the relationship, well you will only receive 50 % , but if you put your all in it, you will gain better results.

Communication is key…

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Nowadays, there are so many different ways to communicate with others, such as text messages, phone calls, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat and the list goes on and on. In any functional relationship, communication is important, rather it is between friends, co-workers, lovers or family members. When there is a lack of communication, problems occur, feelings can get hurt, misunderstanding appear. I believe it is necessary for both the sender and the receiver to be clear so things wont get twisted. If there is a problem or an issue, you shouldn’t hold it in. It does more damaged to hold things in, than to release it. If you love someone, tell them. If you miss someone, tell them. Simple as pie. You will feel better in the end, if you decide to let things out. Life is too short, live life without any regrets. Express your thoughts and feelings, you never know what the outcome may be.

What about your friends?

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A person’s circle can tell you a lot about an individual. For example, if you are constantly around people who are unmotivated, nine times out of ten, you will be unmotivated as well. With that being said, what does your circle say about you? Do you have people in your corner rooting you on or individuals who are wishing the worse of you? Do you have a good friend that you can call on when you are down and out or are the people in your circle simply around when things are going well but when tough times occur, they are no where to be found. Be aware of the people who are in your circle. A real friend is there during the good, bad and the ugly. They keep it real with you and call you out when you are wrong. There isn’t room for jealousy and envy when someone is really for you. Check your circle out and be mindful of the people you allow in your life. If you are blessed with great people in your circle, hold on to them tightly.